Monday, June 06, 2016

some days...

Some days life will feel way too overwhelming. You will need to take a break and let yourself rest. Burnout is a real thing, so be gentle with yourself. When you feel like you don’t have time to take a break, that’s when you need one the most.

Some days you will feel like you can conquer the world. That nothing can stop you from achieving your dreams. That you really could change this world.

Some days you just won't be able to handle it all. That will be most days, actually. You will need to give it to God, ask for help, or just simply say no. That does not mean you are a failure, it means you know how to balance life well and take care of yourself.

Some days you will want to laugh and dance in the rain. Do anything really, to feel like a kid again. (do it!)

Some days you will want to throw your hands up in the air and wish you can just quit. There will be hard and stressful days that are tough to get through.

Some days you will feel like you have things figured out. You’ve made a plan, and things are moving along wonderfully.

Some days you will feel like the whole world is against you. That you can't do anything right. (It's not, and you can.)

Some days you will wonder how this is your life. How you got so lucky to spend life with the ones you love. How you get to be so happy.

Some days you will just have to let it go. Even if you are right, even if there is something that could be said. Sometimes it is better just to let it go, for your own sake.

Some days will be hard, tough, stressful, and make you want to cry. Those days are the ones that stretch us, challenge us, make us better.

But some days... some days will be full of joy, laughter, friends, and everything good in the world that makes your heart swell to ten times its normal size. Those days, my friend, are why the hard days are worth it.

Wednesday, June 01, 2016

project 12 | 2016 | part two

i love having my years captured month by month and plan to keep up with project 12 this year in a few different chunks. you can read about January-March here


we were basically nomads this month, moving from my in-laws to my parents and then back again. we had 15 showings in 8 days though, so we definitely made the right decision to move out while the showings and inspection were going on.

i was also busy with getting an internship interview lined up for school. we do an internship both years which translates to our field practice hours for the program. but you aren't just assigned an internship, you have to be referred and then interview for it as well. so it is like job interviewing which means there is a lot of prep work, and cover letter/resume writing!

Apr 1 - we had 1 showing
Apr 2 - we had 3 showings & we went to Columbia to tour the apartments we chose
Apr 3 - we had 1 showing & we our apartment application was approved, reserved 2nd floor
Apr 5 - we had 1 showing
Apr 6 - the first floor apartment became available
Apr 7 - we had 2 showings
Apr 8 - we had 4 showings & got our first offer on the house
Apr 9 - we had 1 showing & got a second offer on the house, but we accepted the first offer. we also went to the mountains for the afternoon with Thomas's family
Apr 10 - baseball game with my parents
Apr 15 - i told my work that i was leaving & headed to grad school
Apr 16 - day trip with my mom, sister, and nephew to Frozen on Ice
Apr 18 - the inspection was done & we moved back to our house
Apr 20 - the appraisal was done
Apr 22 - i had an interview for a field practice internship
Apr 23 - day trip with my parents to show them the school & our apartment
Apr 26 - inspection negotiations


we always have a busy May because of mother's day and we have 5 people in our families that have birthdays. it is the month of our anniversary also because did you know that we got married on Thomas's birthday?! so when you add in the fact that we are also moving out of our house this same month, it is just crazy!

when we got married in 2013, we got back from our honeymoon on May 25 so that is the day i officially moved in to our house. now in 2016, May 24 is the day we officially moved out of our house. so i basically lived in the house for exactly 3 years to the day. that is just so wild!

we closed on our house on May 31, but we already had our anniversary trip planned for May 26-29 so that's why we had to move our furniture out so early. i am actually glad we already had this trip planned for that weekend, because it forced us to take the weekend off and rest. we have been going non-stop since March working on the house and getting things set up with school/internship, year end craziness at work, cleaning out the house, and getting things set up with our new apartment. it is a lot of work and we needed the rest more than we knew at the time!

right before our vacation, there were a few last minute things the buyers realtor sprung on us, so it was a very hectic and stressful few days leading up to our vacation, and we needed one more than ever. everything eventually got ironed out without us having to spend our trip dealing with the last minute issues, so i was glad that we were able to enjoy most of our vacation. i don't think we can say enough how glad we are to be done with this house selling process!

we don't move to our apartment until the beginning of July, so we will be living with Thomas's parents for the month of June while i finish up at my job. we lucked out with closing being a month and a half after the offer so we only have to be nomads for another month! :)

May 3 - final repair/inspection negotiations done and accepted
May 4 - we signed papers for our storage unit
May 7 - contractor came out to assess the inspection repairs that need done
May 8 - Mother's Day and all May birthdays with both families - busy busy day!
May 9 - repairs were started, i got offered the internship i applied for, and the appraisal came through!
May 10 - plumber came to assess/give us an invoice for repair
May 14-15 - cleaned out the barn and house, started packing up our stuff
May 16 - repairs were finished
May 17 - Thomas's birthday and our third anniversary! we celebrated at The Melting Pot!
May 20-22 - packing, cleaning, and more packing
May 23 - i took the day off to finish up packing for the movers & we spent our last night at our house. we also got a surprise visit from the buyers realtor at 8am telling us the termite inspection would be at 9:30 that morning.
May 24 - movers came to move all our furniture/boxes to the storage unit & we moved in with Thomas's parents... again!
May 25 - we worked on cleaning the house & the buyers decided to get their own contractor
May 26 - buyers contractor came to assess repairs to be invoiced and paid for at closing
May 26-29 - anniversary trip to the mountains
May 30 - moved barn stuff to the storage unit & cleaned the house
May 31 - finished up with the barns & we closed on our house!!!

what have you been up to these last few months?!

Monday, May 30, 2016

confirmation + open doors

i wanted to keep a list of how God has provided confirmation for us about this next life change, because it is cool to look back on things and see how they all fit together. there are tons of details to make this happen that God just worked out for us very quickly. He continued to open doors, even doors we didn't know existed, and there's no doubt in our minds that this is exactly what we should be doing.


o1; last summer we started the conversation of selling our house & moving into something a little bigger. we found out a neighborhood was going in next door to us and discussed with the developer about buying our land. obviously, he didn't buy our land since we are now selling our house, but looking back it seems this was preparing our hearts to be ready to sell it. Thomas has lived in this house for almost 11 years, he fixed it up with his grandpa and parents, and it is the first house we lived in as a married couple, so there is obviously emotion attached to it. so the fact that we had already decided to sell before we had to make the decision to sell it and move for grad school made the decision process easier because we had already come to terms with it.

it worked out that the developer did not buy it, because we would have moved to a new house a few months before we made the decision to go to grad school - and that would have been a tight spot to be in. since we are selling now and not moving straight into another house, it is helping us to finance grad school hopefully without having to take out any loans. 

o2; the first weekend in November, Thomas totaled one of our cars. we ended up buying his grandpa's car and used the rest of the money we got from our insurance company to pay down a chunk of my undergrad student loans. that helped us out tremendously on getting out of debt, because we didn't want to start grad school if we still had debt from undergrad. this is one of the biggest reasons we were able to pay off my student loans earlier than our 3 year plan, and it helped us be able to save more before i quit my job to go to grad school full time. 

o3; when we first started talking about grad school in the fall of last year, we saw that there was an open house we could attend to learn more about the program and meet with some of the staff. the only open house for the semester was during the same week i had taken off of work in November, on a friday, so i was able to go since i already had it off work. that week was the last of my vacation as well, so if the open house had been another time i would have had to move one of my vacation days. i had planned to take that week off before we even brought up grad school, so that was another thing that just worked out perfectly. 

o4; when we decided that i was going to apply for grad school, we weren't really sure how things were going to work out with Thomas's job, or when he should even start the conversation with them that we were moving, but he wanted to keep his same job. before he talked to his work, he threw out the idea that if i got in, he would just commute everyday so he could keep his job because he loves the company he works for. the commute would have been an hour and a half both ways so that would have been terrible!

however, at the end of last year Thomas got pulled into a meeting with his managers and something came up about this summer. he ended up having to tell them that we were looking at grad school and may be moving this summer, because that would impact what they were discussing. he had to bring it up earlier than we would have liked, but his managers told him they didn't want to lose him and would work things out. so they offered to let him work from the local office in the city we are moving to.

his department is at the corporate office, so they like for everyone to be centralized, but since they like him a lot and didn't want to lose him, they are allowing him to work from the local office while we are away for the 2 years that i'm in school. the fact that they offered that first thing was just such a huge answer to prayer because i don't think they would have pulled the strings to let that happen for just anyone. they had to get it approved by top management but they went to bat for Thomas. this was probably the biggest loose end that tied itself.

o5; one of my concerns about my job was that i didn't have a back up for about 95% of what i do... so i was the only person who knew how to do it. which means that there would be a LOT of training that i would need to do once i gave my notice at work. however, like everything else, the timeline just worked itself out. between January and April of this year, my department moved a lot of work around, so i was able to train someone else on 80% of my job by the time i put my notice in. so now, in the month that i have left i will only have to train the new employee on 20% of what i was doing, which will be less stressful for me and benefits the company at the same time.

o6; i was projecting that we would be able to pay off my undergrad student loans by the end of June, which is when i am leaving my job. however, we were able to hit it hard and pay them off completely in March. so that gave us 3 months where we were able to save more while i am still working!

o7; in March i got both acceptances (from the college of social work and from the graduate school) within 3 days. Thomas also got confirmation in March that top management approved the request for him to work at the local office. we also met with a realtor at the beginning of March, worked on the house during the month, and were able to get it listed by the end of the month. so everything just came together really fast in March!

o8; our house was on the market only 9 days before we got our first offer. we got a second offer the next day, but ended up going with the first offer because it was better. closing was proposed to be May 31, which is a little longer than the typical time frame (according to our realtor) which actually helped us because we wanted a later closing. come to find out the buyers apparently know people from our church and visited there. they are also moving from the city that we are moving to, so it is like we are swapping places in a sense - wild!

o9; we found an apartment in our price range that is actually more square footage than our house now. so it worked out that we won't have to worry about storing our furniture anywhere. we originally reserved a 2nd floor apartment because there weren't any 1st floors available for July. then, the day after we reserved our apartment, a 1st floor became available for a July move in date, so we were able to move our reservation to the 1st floor apartment and it's in building we like better that is a little more private. we really wanted a 1st floor apartment also because our basset hound has back issues and she would have had a tough time going up and down stairs multiple times a day, so it worked out great for our needs!


these are the big things that provided confirmation and showed us that God was at work among our decision process. i'm sure there were a lot of little confirmations along the way that i have forgotten, but i wanted to have the biggies documented in one place because i know i will want to re-read this story down the road and remember how God worked things out!