Thursday, January 02, 2014

real talk // the meaning of marriage

when we got engaged, we did marriage counseling with our pastor. it was helpful & insightful. but i'm a book worm & i wanted to read more and learn more. i knew coming into marriage that no matter how much i read, i would still not be fully prepared for this new relationship & life we were starting. i'm only 8 months in, but i'm starting to suspect that i'll never be fully prepared! isn't that how life works, though? the more you learn, the more you realize you have so much left to learn! i love it & i hate it. 

so, i wanted to read a book on marriage. there are a lot of books on marriage out in the world & a lot of them focus on the differences between men & women. i try to stay away from books like that simply because they are not written about my specific husband. sure, he may exhibit a lot of the characteristics & he may even think a similar way... but i can't get to know my husband better by reading a book about men in general. the only way to understand my husband better is to live life with him & communicate with my actual husband. 

so, i wanted to read a book about marriage, but i didn't want to read a book about the differences between men & women. so what did i want? i wanted to understand Jesus better. i wanted to understand marriage better. i wanted to understand my sin better. & it just so happens that Tim Keller, a pastor & author that i admire, wrote just such a book in the past few years. it's called The Meaning of Marriage. i read through this book before i got married & i am about to read through it again.

i felt like i learned a lot reading through this book the first time. but i wanted to read it again on the other side of marriage! so, i'm inviting you to join me in my journey! :) for the simple fact that life is hectic, this may not be a consistent series where i post about one chapter every Thursday, for example. but, i wanted a place to digest the truths found in this book as i read it. 

before i dig into to this book, however, i wanted to highlight some of the first posts on this blog. i actually started this blog in January 2013 to have a place to record my thoughts on marriage during my engagement. i wrote a few posts while i was reading this book & listening to some sermons on marriage. so, for the next few Thursdays i'm going to highlight a few of those posts & then after that i am hoping i'll be well enough into the book to start this series! 

this book is about marriage, but it is more about the gospel. it's about life. it's about Jesus. it's about sin. it's about truth. whether you are single, newlyweds, or married for 60 years - this is a treasure of a book to read! & if you feel so inclined, i invite you to read along! :)



8 comments:

  1. I've heard so many great things about this book! I'm excited to read more about your thoughts!

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  2. it really is a great book! it challenged me more & taught me more than i was expecting! :) i'm excited to read through it again & work through it on the blog!

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  3. This books sounds really interesting! I may have to read it with you!!!

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  4. it is so good! i hope you do read it!! :) then maybe we can discuss!!

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  5. I've heard great things about it and just love Tim Keller!!

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  6. i just love him too!! this book is seriously so good!!

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  7. I read this book before we got married, too, and I really enjoyed it. I feel like I read so many marriage books that I can't differentiate one from the other right now, so I might join you on this reading. I also recommend "Sacred Marriage" by Gary Thomas. We read that book together as part of our counseling, and I loved it, too.

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  8. awesome!! that would be so great if we could discuss while we're reading through it! :) someone actually gave me a copy of Sacred Marriage & i have it at work to read! :) a lot of times i read 2-3 books at a time lol so i may do that!

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