Tuesday, July 29, 2014

matron of honor diaries | a DIY engagement gift

one thing that i love doing is putting together cute little packages! when i asked my bridesmaids to be in my wedding, i put together a package for them in order to ask them! i love giving gifts & so this was a super fun way for me to give them something & ask something in return! 

in the package:
green wooden hearts - i wanted to use my wedding colors (yellow, green, brown) so i painted the hearts green. on the wood heart, i put a picture of a sunflower bouquet (that they would have at my wedding) and a picture of the dress i wanted them to wear! under that, i put "will you be my bridesmaid/maid of honor?" 
double picture frame - i printed off a picture of me with each bridesmaid (pre-wedding obviously) and put it in a double frame. on the other side of the frame i put a poem telling each one how much i enjoy our friendship & love them! 
candy - i put all of this into a cute little box & filled it with their favorite candy!


i told you that to tell you this! i had loads of fun doing that & have been dying to do something similar again. so, when Jenna and Ryan starting getting pretty serious & talking about marriage, i secretly started a "yay you're engaged" package to give to Jenna when she got engaged! i had this package ready for a few months before Ryan popped the question. i am not a very patient person, so i think the day after Jenna got engaged [Memorial Day] i took this over to her house! 


one thing that i had such a headache figuring out when i was engaged... was how to get my name changed after the wedding & what order i needed to do it in! so, i thought i would save Jenna some frustration & share what i know! 

for instance, you have to change your name on your social security card before you can change it anywhere else. it will take the card about 2 weeks to get mailed back to you, so you have to do this first thing! sometimes there is a time limit to change your name on insurance, your job, etc., so getting the new social security card is priority!

i printed off the instructions & name change form for the social security administration & added a few helpful tips on post it notes! i also printed off the name change form & new license form for the SC DMV because that is the second step! then, once she has a new Drivers License she can change her name everywhere else!


for the rest of the package, i did a wedding theme where i gave her something old, something new, something borrowed & something blue! 

something old a photo of me & her at my wedding in May of 2013 
something new newly married tips that i have gathered from various blogs & books
something borrowed "31 days of praying for your husband" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss (that i love so much!)
something blue a letter to Jenna from me (on blue paper!) telling her how happy i am for her, sharing a few challenges for the time of engagement, & sharing a few tips i learned from planning my wedding!



& to go with the poem theme since i wrote my bridesmaids a poem with their packages... i found & tweaked a poem to the bride to be since we have now switched places where she is the bride & i am supporting her in her wedding! 



what is your favorite thing to do for newly engaged friends?!


30 comments:

  1. aw, your gift to your friend is so intentional, informative and pulsating with love! i might borrow some of your ideas. ;)

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  2. What a sweet gift! I love the thought of including a how-to for changing your name. It's a lot more complicated than people think!

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  3. How thoughtful are you?! I love this! My good friend got engaged Saturday, but I just gave her a bridal magazine :)

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  4. This is too sweet, Robyn! What a wonderful personal gift!! :)

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  5. This is so cute! I wish someone had streamlined name changing for me, as I am still working on it and it's a drag!!

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  6. this is such a sweet idea, so thoughtful!

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  7. Coffee Beans High HeelsJuly 29, 2014 at 9:04 PM

    this is so cute! love the idea so much. i am stopping by from the blog hop and now following your fabulous blog!
    xo
    Orly
    http://coffeebeansandhighheels.weebly.com

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  8. thank you! :) it was definitely a more informative gift than a fun one :) but it's something i wish i had gotten when i was engaged! borrow away!!! :)

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  9. yes! so complicated! and there are SO many things you have to change your name on that you don't even think about!

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  10. anything is helpful! :) because when you start thinking about wedding planning it can be so overwhelming!

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  11. thanks Aimee! it was fun to put together :)

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  12. oh gosh! such a drag!!! and your name is SO many places it's unreal! best of luck finishing up! :)

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  13. i should have added a little more fun in there :)

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  14. thanks for stopping by & nice to "meet" you :)

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  15. haha. I am sure you are adding all kinds of fun!

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  16. This is such a thoughtful gift! I love that you put items for encouragement + also some 'how to's' together for your friend. So sweet of you!

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  17. You are so thoughtful! I love the idea of putting all the paperwork in there because that is seriously a huge pain in the rear end + some! I had to drive 1 1/2 hours just to drop off my social security card. That is also where the nearest Starbucks was so I guess that was ok =)


    I'm really terrible and have never really thought about getting friends engagement presents. Most of my friends are married (and have been for a while) but I should probably start doing this for anyone else I know getting married.


    Thanks for sharing this! You're friend is blessed to have you.

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  18. Now that's a really smart idea to include all the info about how and where to change your name! That whole process is definitely not the most fun part of being married. :)

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  19. thank you Caitlin! :) i tried to make it sweet + practical :)

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  20. oh my gosh! SUCH a pain! it took me like 3 months to get my name right on everything! hahaha well at least you got some Starbucks! that makes any trip better! :)


    honestly, i never thought about it either until after i got married! so i tried to think of what i would have wanted to get when i got engaged! i think it is a great gift to give! even if they do things completely different, you can still give them your tips & they can take it with a grain of salt! :)


    i thought about doing a full out binder of all the details of a wedding, but i just let her borrow my wedding binder instead :)

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  21. right! cause it took me forever to figure all of that out & i want to spare anyone i can of the pain of that! haha!!

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  22. wow, robyn, that's amazing! i know all of your other comments have said pretty much this same thing, but you are SO thoughtful! what a precious, well-thought-out gift. it's so sweet that you included all the pictures of you two, and so practical to include the name-changing stuff!! if only i had seen this before my sister-in-law's wedding ;)

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  23. haha thank you so much Julie! :) i wanted to do something that was meaningful but useful too :)

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  24. This is so creative and cute Robyn!!!!! what a wonderful idea :):) I need to keep this in mind for when the time comes that my best friend gets married!!!! Love this so much
    xx amber

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  25. I love this, SO MUCH! My husband's step brother just got engaged, and I'm becoming great friends with his fiance. This would be wonderful as a gift to her!

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  26. thanks Amber!!! :) i had fun making it! please do this for her - it was so much fun to do & really helps with some of the logistics! :)

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  27. oh awesome! yes please use this as a gift for her, Nicole!! :)

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