Thursday, August 23, 2018

30 things I've learned in 30 years

a few years ago (4 to be exact) I did a post entitled 26 things I've learned in 26 years. since I just turned the big three-oh (this morning!), I decided it would be fun to do another post of this sort. only this time I came up with 30 things I've learned in 30 years! I didn't read back through the post I made four years ago, so it will be interesting to see if I have similar things on each list! although, this time I made each point a little shorter (& lighter), because it takes a while to read through (and type up) 30 things!

obviously this picture was taken during winter lol cause I'd burn up in that jacket during August in the south!

30 THINGS I'VE LEARNED IN 30 YEARS

o1; time goes by SO FAST!

o2; sharing your struggles & weaknesses will help others share theirs too!

o3; there is always something to learn from every experience that you have!

o4; life is better when it can be spent with people who get you!

o5; your entire life can change in one instant (one doctor's appointment, one wreck, one phone call)

o6; spending the day in nature can help put things into perspective!

o7; procrastination never pays off! (if you just bite the bullet and #doworkson, then you can enjoy your downtime without the work looming over your head!)

o8; it stinks to be sick as an adult (because you still have to do everything you would normally do!)

o9; you have the ability and the "okay" to change your mind if you want to!

1o; marriage will not fix the problems you have (if anything, it will complicate them further!)

11; you have a lot of opportunity to get free food during your college years - take them!

12; always have a pet! they make the bad days a little brighter!

13; you cannot do everything you're asked to do (and that's okay!)

14; it's okay to cry (and if you live long enough, you will have plenty of occasions to!)

15; don't assume you know someone's story or intention, just be kind!

16; you feel so much better when you get a full night's sleep!

17; take chances when you're young (it's better to know than to wonder "what if?")

18; you do use math in everyday life (at least, if you budget!)

19; forgiving others will set you free!

2o; college is not the best 4 years of your life (there are so many more freedoms as you grow older!)

21; laughter is the best medicine (it can heal your heart & stop an argument!)

22; Hanson's "Snowed In" will always be the best Christmas album!

23; always take pictures (you will be glad you have the memories!)

24; children really do grow up so fast!

25; the more money you have, the more money you're apt to spend!

26; men and women think so, so differently (like, SO differently!)

27; you should try weird things... you may find out you like them!

28; your body will always let you know when you need to slow down!

29; you can find something you admire in every person you meet, if you look hard enough!

3o; thirty is really not that old! ;) but you do start feeling the aging process hit you! (for example, it takes me a looooottt longer to get up off the floor than it used to, haha!)



sadly, I still don't know how many licks it takes to get to the center of a tootsie pop, though!
what is the most important thing you've learned thus far?



Monday, August 20, 2018

we're building a house!

the sunset across the street from our lot!

we are looking forward to being homeowners again and so excited that this will come in the form of building a home! it's been 2 1/2 years since we sold our first house & started the nomad-ish life! since then, we have stayed with my parents, lived in an apartment, and lived with my in-laws for a year now. we are so thankful that we were able to stay with both of our parents and save some money during grad school!

but it's been a long few years of storage units and living out of boxes, and we are so excited to have our own house again soon! we have done A LOT of moving over the past three years, and we are looking forward to the day that we can move all of our stuff out of storage and not have to move again for a long, long time! we are still in the beginning stages, so we won't be in our home until spring or summer of next year, but we are excited to know what our next step is!

we started talking about buying land and the possibility of building a home around the beginning of June. since then, we've been looking into what all is included in building a house and all of the associated costs/steps with it. we've walked the lot we wanted to purchase, had a land surveyor come out, figured out where the house would sit on the land, figured out water/power/sewer hookup, figured out grading, building permits, and blueprints, talked to multiple builders, and talked to multiple banks. we did a lot of research the past few months and recently we were able to buy an acre of land to build on! so we are officially land owners!

it is exciting to think about being able to pick out everything that will go into our home! it actually worked out that building a house that we could grow into fit best with our budget right now! it is really hard to find a house with an acre of land where we live, and any we did find required a lot of updating to the house. after looking at options and calculating things out, we could stretch our money a lot further by building a house where we can make everything basic and simple (then upgrade years down the road). we really wanted land (and to hopefully never move again, haha) so we are happy that we have an acre!

it has been a sloooow process so far because we've been interviewing multiple builders and meeting with multiple banks to line up our options, and trying to schedule all of these meetings in-between our work schedules! things were happening behind the scenes, but at times it just felt like nothing was happening because there wasn't anything tangible to see yet. but we are going to have to be patient because building a house is a slow process in itself! haha! when you are buying a new house on undeveloped land, there is a lot of things you have to check off before you can really start building. i think once we finally break ground and start grading it will seem more real!

it actually worked out that all of this preliminary stuff has taken a while to sort out because I just started working in June so we really needed me to get some more financial work history since I have been in school the past 2 years & doing unpaid internships those 2 years. we also wanted to "shop around" on mortgages and see what all of our options are. since i started my job in June, we've been trying to save up as much as we could for a down payment, and this has given us some more time to save before we apply for pre-approval. it will still be a little while before we can apply with the bank because we are waiting on our official blueprints that we need to have when we apply, and they will take a few more weeks to get back. then the pre-approval process will take a few weeks, so it will be another few months before we break ground, but it's coming!

it has been fun to walk the lot and pick out where the house would go! neither of us knew anything about the process of building a house, so i feel like we've learned SO much over the past few months. we started looking at the possibility of building around the same time i started my job, so i've been learning my job during the day then learning about building a house at night! haha! school is over, but learning is lifelong, right?! we have been dreaming about getting started for a while now, and we are very excited that the process is moving along!

it is exciting times and i will be updating our progress and the things we learn along the way during the next few months as this process moves forward! there are so many things that go into buying land, preparing a lot, finding a builder, and creating a custom home! so i'm sure there will be some interesting posts along the way! and i can't wait to take photos throughout each step of the process! below i will share the "before" photos of our lot & the official stakes that show where our land begins and ends!



OUR LOT
 looking down our lot from the road front

 Thomas marking trees to show where the house will sit

Thomas writing what the flags are marking

 the front left corner of where our house will sit soon!

 walking our lot and dreaming about the home we will build here

 stakes the surveyor put down to officially mark off our lot



have you ever built a house? if so, share all of your advice! :)

Wednesday, August 01, 2018

how a visit to the dentist is pretty much like an awkward first date



everytime i go to the dentist, i think about how awkward the experience is. when i was in high school, i had braces and i would have to go to the dentist on a weekly basis for a while, so you'd think i would have gotten used to it. but i still find it super awkward. my dentist was also my orthodontist, by the way, so i still go to the same person that did my braces. 

my dentist office is also pretty large, so up until the last few years i always had a different hygienist everytime i went, which added to the awkwardness because each time it would be someone i didn't know. i only have to go to the dentist twice a year because thankfully i have healthy teeth... but it still feels like an awkward first date each time. i've been thinking about the similarities for a few years and finally decided to write them down. ;) 


5 ways a visit to the dentist is pretty much like an awkward first date:

o1; the entire time i'm laying back in the chair, i'm thinking to myself "what do i do with my hands?" and "how much eye contact is too much eye contact?" i lay my hands on my stomach for a while because that's the easiest but then they get tired after a while! i also don't want to look at the hygienist while she's digging around in my mouth (lol) but sometimes she's leaning over my face and i can't help but look at her. nothing is more awkward than making eye contact with someone when you can't talk, at least i find that awkward! 

o2; prior to the appointment, i wonder if we are going to have enough to talk about or if there will be awkward silences? since i only go every 6 months it's hard to remember details about my hygienist (and i'm sure she doesn't remember details about my life either!) so i get stuck on questions to ask and i'm not huge on small talk in the first place! this is a huge anxiety before meeting new people as well, and especially on a first date! 

o3; at the dentist it always seems like they ask me questions while they're working on my teeth, so i can't really answer. on a first date this is the equivalent of someone asking you questions when you just took a bite of food... so you have to hurry and chew your food, while they watch you, before answering. either that or talk with a mouth full of food. another similarity is that the questions that are asked, both at the dentist and on a first date, are very generic and general. i feel like i answer the same questions every visit to the dentist haha

o4; at the dentist, and on a first date, you're trying to impress them which often comes in the form of embellishing the truth. at the dentist this looks like "oh yeah I floss EVERY day" and on a first date this may look like "i am pretty much the most awesome person in the world" haha

o5; at the end of the visit or the date, you have to schedule the next one and it's always hard to figure out what will work between both of our schedules. if it's a bad first date, you may not want to schedule another one and i basically never want to think about having to do the dentist appointment again so soon, haha! you may find yourself thinking "well if it doesn't work out and i have better things to do, i'll just reschedule" ;)


do you find the dentist awkward also? or is it just me?